So maybe perfectionism is not where you get hung up, but what about comparison.
Comparison soothes but also deceives making us feel justified with sinful actions. Or it can be disheartening when we feel that others are doing better than us. In either case its inaccurate and deceiving – which is why the devil loves when we do it. He works to keep us looking at others instead of looking to God himself.
STEP 1 – Be honest here. Who are the people, friends or even strangers, whom you tend to compare yourself to? Write this down in your Prayer Journal.
STEP 2 – How does it make you feel when you measure yourself as better than them? Choose some of these adjectives and write them down in your Prayer Journal: Superior / Justified / Proud/ Accomplished/ Mature/ Smart / Confident
STEP 3 – How does it make you feel to think you are worse than them? Choose some of these adjectives and write them down in your Prayer Journal: Depressed / Inferior / Weak / Ignorant / Resigned / Embarrassed / Regretful
God’s perfect righteousness can be discouraging because, we have no hope of applying it on our own. And comparative righteousness is deceiving because, it’s a measurement against an inaccurate standard. So neither of these options can be the right way. There must be another way – a way to be truly righteous, without being perfect. Without just trying to be better than everybody else.
Every journey is so unique. Don’t focus on what someone else is doing and envy that because, you will never be that person. Someone might lose the weight faster than you, so what? Focus on improving each day, even if its small improvements.
Day 18 Mental Health Tip
Compare yourself to how you were yesterday, not to how someone else is today.